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The Fourteen Commandments of Me

I totally stole borrowed this idea from Steph. At least I think it was Steph. Maybe it was Erin. I honestly cannot remember so whomever originated this idea, thank you. 

One thing I can always say about myself, even on my worst days, is that I’m confident in who I am. I know what I believe and what I stand for, and while I’m open to hearing all kinds of view points and being persuaded and encouraged to think about those differing opinions, I’m pretty unwavering in my fundamental beliefs. 

I call those the Fourteen Commandments of Me (okay, fine, if I’m being honest, I just came up with that moniker but we’ll pretend like I’ve always used it). Some of these are also similar to a list I made for my birthday last year so if they seem familiar, that’s probably why.

Here they are:

  1. I do not care what you do for a living or how much money you have or don’t have or how big or small your house is. If you’re a good, kind, and decent person, we’ll get along.
  2. Puppies, beaches, books, and naps can fix most bad days. 
  3. People’s reproductive choices are none of my business. Have 10 kids, have zero kids. Not for me to judge. Same for marriage choices. Marry who you want. It does not affect me at all. 
  4. Your budget, your business. My budget, my business.
  5. Use manners, proper grammar, and don’t be an asshole in traffic.
  6. Support your friends and family in their endeavors. And remember that success is not a limited resource. (Unless they add you a Facebook group without your permission. Then it’s fine to walk away).
  7. Always make time to read, for my family, and play with my dogs. 
  8. Go somewhere new every year.
  9. Put your phone away when paying for a purchase, at the dinner table, and when you’re driving. 
  10. Embrace your flaws as well as your strengths. 
  11. There is always room for improvement.
  12. Quality over quantity, especially when it comes to friends. Two caveats: pizza and chocolate. Lots of bad pizza or chocolate is still better than no pizza or chocolate.
  13. Never feel guilty about anything that makes you happy.
  14. Respect people’s beliefs and opinions, even if they’re different than yours. Don’t force what you believe on anyone else. Unless they want to vote for Donald Trump. Then by all means, try to convince them otherwise. 

How about you guys? What are some of the rules you live by?

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  1. Kelli

    My favorite part of all of this is unless they want to vote for Donald Trump, so far none of my friends have publicly announced their support for Trump and I’m so relieved.

    Also, yes to all the things in #2, those are my go to comfort things too.
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  2. SMD @ Life According to Steph

    Co-sign my name to all of these!

    Except bad pizza…I eat it, but it pisses me off the whole time. LOLOL
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  3. Linda sheridan

    Good list. Amen on the Trump thing but Cruz is really creepy. Looks like Robbie Rotten from the kids’ show Lazytown. Sending the lights and asking the universe to intervene again. The universe definitely did for the past 2 presidential elections. The Koch money and rigging voting machines , etc couldn’t buy victories. Loving this weather !
    Love. Steph’s. Momma.

  4. Ali A

    PREACH, sista. We already knew we were the same person, so I obviously agree and identify with all of this. I can’t comment on each one but re: #9, I was in a salad place ordering lunch last week and a guy REFUSED to get off his phone while placing his order. The workers had tons of questions (“Do you want this chopped?” “Which dressing?” “What kind of bread?”) and the a-hole looked super inconvenienced by them like, “CANT YOU SEE I’M ON THE PHONE?” I was seeing RED.
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  5. Ashley @ The Wandering Weekenders

    Love this so much! You can always make the time for family, and we should put away our phones at the dinner table. Did you hear that Chickfila has a challenge for families now that everybody will get an ice cream if nobody has their phone out during the entirety of dinner? It’s kind of sad that they have to do that.
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  6. kathy @ more coffee, less talky


    also, life is too short for bad coffee or wine. ain’t nobody got time fo’dat
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  7. Stephanie

    I think don’t be an asshole in traffic needs to be #1 on everyone’s list… but it never is. I get major road rage! Like, how did most people get their driver’s license? I’m very curious.
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  8. Amber

    I love all of these–especially the grammar one. And 1 and 2. Only replace puppies with kittens for me. I do love naps. And books.

    Haha, I do know people who are voting for Donald Trump. On my Facebook blog page some people admitted to it because I posted an anti-Trump photo. I guess it’s their business, but I sort of don’t get it. I mean..???
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  9. Kristin

    There’s no such thing as bad pizza. It doesn’t exist.

  10. Lauren

    So many good things on this list. A guy was driving like a jerk yesterday and he had a Trump sticker… figures. I get downright ragey when people can’t get off their phones when speaking to others.
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  11. Mackenzie

    Trump and the people at his rallies and the people voting for him, I mean, come on, just stop. Stop the madness. I love pizza but bad pizza just makes me mad 😉
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  12. lisacng @ expandng.com

    So YES to number 1! The smartest most successful people can also be the most annoying. YES to also putting away your phone when in line at the grocery store and driving (seriously, why do people still do this?!).
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  13. Tanya @ A Mindful Migration

    I love this! And I’m not ashamed to admit that I totally plan on stealing … I mean borrowing the idea for a future post. 🙂 I agree with every commandment, although I would have to add kitties to #2 and #7 because I am a crazy cat lady! Proud of it too! The one thing that still needs a lot of work is my confidence. I’m not jello and easily molded – I stay true to my convictions but spend too much time worrying about what others think and so forth. I’m coming out from underneath a long and difficult depression, which really wreaked havoc on my confidence and mojo. Work in progress, thy name is Tanya!
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  14. Christina

    I basically believe in all of this too! I’m drawn to all walks of life as long as they are kind. I can’t stand it when people are on their phones when checking out or ordering. It’s so rude!!

    Sorry about adding you to a Facebook group. 🙁 It’s how those things work! Haha! It doesn’t hurt my feelings when people remove themselves though.
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  15. Nadine

    Yes yes yes yes yes!!!!! I say yes to all of this. Except bad pizza or chocolate. That shit pisses me off and I refuse to waste my calories on crap lol. If I am going to “be bad” then it better taste damn good and be worth it! Hahaha!!!
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  16. TexErin

    All of it.

    Neil & I were just discussing assholes in traffic today, especially when they are jeopardizing public safety, and how they just need to stop.

    The golden rule – it’s still a valuable commandment to live by – treat others how you want to be treated. If every single person on the planet lived this way, what a wonderful world it would be.
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