One thing I can always say about myself, even on my worst days, is that I’m confident in who I am. I know what I believe and what I stand for, and while I’m open to hearing all kinds of view points and being persuaded and encouraged to think about those differing opinions, I’m pretty unwavering in my fundamental beliefs.
I call those the Fourteen Commandments of Me (okay, fine, if I’m being honest, I just came up with that moniker but we’ll pretend like I’ve always used it). Some of these are also similar to a list I made for my birthday last year so if they seem familiar, that’s probably why.
Here they are:
- I do not care what you do for a living or how much money you have or don’t have or how big or small your house is. If you’re a good, kind, and decent person, we’ll get along.
- Puppies, beaches, books, and naps can fix most bad days.
- People’s reproductive choices are none of my business. Have 10 kids, have zero kids. Not for me to judge. Same for marriage choices. Marry who you want. It does not affect me at all.
- Your budget, your business. My budget, my business.
- Use manners, proper grammar, and don’t be an asshole in traffic.
- Support your friends and family in their endeavors. And remember that success is not a limited resource. (Unless they add you a Facebook group without your permission. Then it’s fine to walk away).
- Always make time to read, for my family, and play with my dogs.
- Go somewhere new every year.
- Put your phone away when paying for a purchase, at the dinner table, and when you’re driving.
- Embrace your flaws as well as your strengths.
- There is always room for improvement.
- Quality over quantity, especially when it comes to friends. Two caveats: pizza and chocolate. Lots of bad pizza or chocolate is still better than no pizza or chocolate.
- Never feel guilty about anything that makes you happy.
- Respect people’s beliefs and opinions, even if they’re different than yours. Don’t force what you believe on anyone else. Unless they want to vote for Donald Trump. Then by all means, try to convince them otherwise.
How about you guys? What are some of the rules you live by?