Yesterday, some people that I love and care about very much received news that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. Out of respect for them, their family, and their privacy, I will not reveal details but suffice it to say that no one, and I mean no one, should ever have to go through what they are about to go through.
Their ordeal got me thinking about how much we take for granted. We waste so much time that we forget everything around us that’s amazing. We take advantage of our time and our days and, in that, we forget that nothing is a guarantee. We need to make the most of every moment, and cherish the time you have with people you love and care about because you never know when he or she might not be there anymore. And, because of that, we all need to take a moment to just pause.
We’re so busy being busy that we forget to just stop. We think that if you aren’t logged in to Facebook or running around to different activities, we’ll get lost in the shuffle. That people will forget about us. But I ask this—so what? So what if our online presence is absent for a day or two days or even a week? So what if we miss that class or party or even a day of work? What’s the worst that can happen (save being fired. That’s pretty awful)?
Just for today, tomorrow, or one day next month, I want you to just pause. I want you to step away from your iPhone or iPad or lap
top. I want you to turn off the TV unless you’re watching something that makes you extremely happy. I want you to say no to something that is obligatory rather than gives you enjoyment. I want you do to do any one (or more) of the following:
- Hug someone you love. Not because they’re in pain or hurting but because you just love them and you’re happy that they’re around.
- Take a walk. Spend time outside, even if it’s for a half hour on your lunch break. Enjoy the sunshine and the random bits of nature that might be around your office or home. And if it’s raining, sit at a window and watch the rain. Even that’s beautiful.
- Drive with the windows down and sing at the top of your lungs. Even at a red light. Because who cares what the other dri
vers think? - Play with your pets, if you have them. Take them for a walk or play fetch or do whatever it is that people do with pets that aren’t dogs.
- Give your kids a day of your undivided attention.
- Do something nice for yourself. Eat candy or ice cream for dinner. Take a nap. Go shopping. Have drinks with friends. Don’t work for a day.
- Call, rather than email or text, a friend.
- Tell your friends and family how much they mean to you.
- Draw a picture. Read a book. Play a game of tag or a board game or cards. Act like a 5 year old if you need to (but I implore you, please leave out the tantrums).
- Don’t clean your house that day. Don’t run any errands. Don’t answer any emails.
- Do anything else that you deem fun, important, or relaxing but you always put off because there’s never enough time.
And if you find yourself making excuses for why you can’t do any of this, tell yourself that you need to do it for the people who can’t or the kids who’ll never get the chance.
You owe it to them.