I’ve talked before about how self-employment scares the crap out of me. That still doesn’t change the fact that I have a burning desire to leave my job and pursue freelancing full-time. Why? My job is depressing.
I don’t mean my job is depressing in the normal “I hate working in an office on somebody else’s schedule and my boss is a douche and my co-workers are lame” Office Space-type depressing. I mean my job is literally depressing. I don’t know how much I’ve disclosed here, maybe some drips and drabs, but I’m going to describe it for you so you can fully understand the depths of how depressing my job is and why I feel compelled to leave.
I as a case reviewer in my state’s Kids’ Department. What this means is that typically when a case blows up for a bad reason, I get the job of looking at all the records and determining if policy was followed, if there were any systems issues…stuff like that. These are typically some of the worst cases imaginable and they hurt my head and my heart. What some people do to kids is just disgusting (I’m not talking people like Jerry Sandusky who do it to strangers. I’m talking about what parents do to their own kids). The crowning jewel of all of this is sitting on my state’s Child Death Review Panel.
Yup, twice a month I get to attend a meeting where we talk about kids dying. Actual cases, too. And all sorts of reasons for the deaths–car accidents, illnesses, SIDS, suicides, homicides, drownings, fires…all of it except deaths or near deaths by abuse or neglect. That’s reviewed in a separate panel that I don’t sit on (which is a really, really good thing). I also get the pleasure of being the liaison for the Fetal and Infant Mortality Review panel. Uplifting stuff, right?
When I took the job almost a year ago, I knew that I was going to have to do this. I didn’t care because it meant getting away from a very toxic work environment and into a much healthier one. I had previously worked for my supervisor in a different capacity and she is wonderful. I can’t say enough good things about her and my other supervisor (I have two, for two different functions of my job). But what I failed to realize was the emotional toll that a job like this would have on me. It’s one thing to supervise juvenile criminals (have I mentioned that I was a probation officer?) or investigate physicians for Medicaid fraud; it’s another to review how babies and children die. As a parent and general human being, it’s become sadder than I can handle.
I have talked to my supervisor about it and she is willing to step in for a few months to give me a break. I appreciate that so much. But eventually I’ll have to go back which makes me even more depressed. I’m tired of seeing the bad side of humanity. I want to see some good stuff. I want to affect change in a positive way, not retrospectively review what could have been done to prevent something bad. I want to see some results of what I do, not have my work linger in committee for 3 years (which is also why I’ll never be a politician). I want to know that I’m actually making a difference.
I recognize that those are pretty tough demands. But I feel that with blogging and writing, I can affect change in a positive way. I can help people learn to make changes in their mindset about money and debt. I can become an advocate for financial freedom and, if I want, I can take up an advocacy role for these kids rather than feeling like a helpless drone. I can actually use my policy background for positive, rather than negative, reasons.
Walking away from this job is not going to be easy. I work with wonderful people, I have a great office with lots of windows, I have a ton of freedom, paid vacation and sick time, a steady paycheck, a pension, medical, vision and dental benefits, a casual dress code–pretty much anything you can want in a job. But it’s just too depressing and I’m sick of the politics that go along with having a government job (the straw for me was not related to my job but to my husband’s. That’s another story for another time. Let’s just say that just because you have a PhD and are friends with a Cabinet Secretary does not mean you are qualified to run an entire division). So I’m working on a plan. I’m not leaving this kind of job, which I do feel lucky to have, without a concrete plan. But I can’t do this job much longer.
It took a lot of soul-searching to come to this conclusion. While I still don’t feel confident in my ability to earn a living as a freelancer, that lack of confidence has got to be better than being depressed every single day. I can overcome the lack of confidence; I’m not sure I can overcome the depression.