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Tips for handling PTA fundraisers

February 8, 2013 by Jana 5 Comments

someecards.com - Please, Cindy. The PTA needs me. I'm in charge of exploiting children to get more money from school tax payers with door to door sales of overpriced garbage.Confession: I refuse to join the PTA at my daughter’s school. Why? Because they are fundraising whores.

Every day, my child comes home with papers upon papers from the PTA, telling us about a fundraiser at this restaurant or asking us to solicit friends and family for their money or trying to sell some crappy product. It’s maddening. I mean, I’m all for supporting my daughter’s school and her education, but I don’t feel that my bank account (or the bank account of people I care about) need to be drained in order to demonstrate that support.

Not only am I frustrated with the amount of times they ask us for money, but there is absolutely no disclosure as to where the money is going. Are they raising it for equipment for the school? New books for the library? Updated computers in every classroom? A school supply pool so that parents no longer have to contribute to school supply welfare? All they tell us is that the PTA is raising money for the school. They don’t tell us why. And maybe if I knew why, I’d be more inclined to contribute.

There’s also this—they brainwash the kids to think that if they don’t participate in these fundraisers, they’re essentially punished. They don’t win the prize, they don’t support their school, and they’ll be left out because they didn’t do it. What the hell kind of awful lessons are these to teach to our kids?

I just can’t be part of an organization that does that. So I opt not to.

Opting out of the PTA doesn’t mean that I don’t support my child’s education. In fact, there are plenty of ways to be involved without joining the PTA or spending a fortune on PTA fundraisers. Just because I choose not to reach into the deep recesses of my wallet to support my child’s school, doesn’t mean I don’t do anything to support the school or her education.  And if you, too, don’t want to join the PTA at your child’s school, you can join me in these inexpensive options:

  1. Volunteer. Whether it’s helping out at lunch or chaperoning a field trip, parents make a huge difference when they volunteer at their child’s school. It’s helps the teachers out (and they’re very grateful for that), and it gives you an inside look at the dynamics of the class.  I’ve learned so much about my child’s day and her friends just by observing what’s on the walls of her classroom.
  2. Help with homework. And read the literature that gets sent home. This is especially beneficial for younger kids, like my daughter, who aren’t as independent as the older ones. Assisting with homework is important not only to reinforce the lessons that they’re learning at school but you get to see, firsthand, what they’re learning.  Letters from the principal and classroom notes fliers are also great for providing this information.
  3. Communicate with the teacher. If your child isn’t forthcoming about information, take the time to communicate with her teacher. Send an email. Make a phone call. Attend a parent-teacher conference.
  4. Pick and choose which fundraisers you participate in. There’s no reason to participate in all of them. It’s expensive and tiring to do them all. Plus, you don’t want to come across as begging family and friends for their money. So, decide at the beginning of the year what your fundraising budget is (and determine how many you will participate in) and stick to it. If that means you attend a few restaurant events and sell one product, then that’s all you do. No need to feel guilty or go broke raising money for someone else, even your kid’s school.
  5. Make a one-time donation to the school. And leave it at that. When I ranted about this on my personal Facebook page, some of my teacher friends said that they make a donation to the school at the beginning of the year, ensuring that a) their kids get the ridiculous trinkets and b) they don’t feel guilty not participating in anything else. They’ve done what they feel is right and what they can afford and they move on.

There’s also this option, and it’s one my husband came up with. When the school sends home a fundraiser, talk to your kid about it. Explain the cost of all the fundraisers, why the school is doing is (even if it’s in vague terms), how much time it takes, and the true value of the prizes. Then find something that your kid really wants (like a Disney cruise, if you’re my kid) and compare the prices and value. Tell your kid that for every dollar you don’t spend on a fundraiser is money you can put towards saving for that goal.

I like this idea. It teaches kids about savings, it teaches a lesson about fundraising and how little, cheap prizes really aren’t all that valuable, and that asking people for money with no purpose isn’t necessarily the best way to treat your friends and family.

I don’t know what happened to the PTA. I knew that they always had their hands in raising money for the schools, but I always thought it was more than that. It makes me sad it’s no longer this way. At least, not at my daughter’s school.

Parents, how do you handle PTA fundraisers? Is your PTA similar to ours?

 

Filed Under: Family matters, Money

Roommate: yes or no?

February 6, 2013 by Jana 18 Comments

someecards.com - We'll be perfect roommates as long as you never touch anything of mine and leave the second my friends come overWhen you’re deciding to move out on your own, one of the first questions on your mind is usually “should I get a roommate?” It’s an important question and it’s certainly not a decision that should be entered into lightly. A roommate or roommates can make or break a living situation, and if you don’t choose carefully, you could be in for a very long year (or however long your lease is for).

Who you live with is almost as important as where you live. After all, this is the person who you share your living space with. The person who will probably get to know many of your disgusting and unsavory habits. The person who will turn you on or off to living with others in the future. And while there are a number of qualities and characteristics you’re going to want to know about (significant others, pets, work schedule, stuff like that), it’s also important to weigh the pros and cons of having a roommate before you make a decision.

Let’s explore some of those:

Pros

  • Someone to share expenses. If you’re striking out on your own for the first time, the cost of maintaining a home can be quite shocking. You might be working in an entry level job with a small salary or maybe you’re an entrepreneur just starting out. A roommate can help ease the burden of some expenses.
  • Someone to share household maintenance. Maintaining a home doesn’t just include repairs. It also includes cleaning, grocery shopping, paying bills, and a number of activities. Having a roommate to split the chores with spreads the responsibility around as well as saves each person time (since no one is doing everything).
  • Someone to socialize with. This is especially helpful if you’re moving to a new city or town. If you move in with someone who’s already living there or you move with someone who’s also new, it’s less likely that you’ll feel lonely. You’ll be more encouraged to go out and explore and perhaps meet new people.

Cons

  • Dealing with a deadbeat. Let’s face it. Not everyone is as responsible as we are. You may pick a roommate who can’t manage the $5 in his wallet or keep a job, never mind paying his portion of the bills. Having someone to split the bills with may mean that you pay everything up front and then wait to get paid back. Which, sadly, might not happen.
  • Living with a slob. There are lots of people who don’t like to clean, don’t care to clean or just don’t know how to clean. When it all comes down to it, it’s just a matter of not wanting to clean, because even if you don’t know how, you can certainly learn. But if you’re someone who likes to live in a neat, orderly, clean house and your roommate leaves dirty laundry, pizza boxes and wet towels all over the apartment, a clash is bound to occur.
  • Personality conflicts. Not everyone, not even the best of friends, are meant to live together. You may be a night owl while your roommate is a morning person. He may like to entertain while you prefer small gatherings. You may be loud, she may be quiet. There are any number of toxic combinations that can occur when two (or more) people live together.

Having a roommate can be the best—or the worst—experience of your independent living. It’s essential that you carefully consider all the factors available to you before you decide to live with someone else.

Have you had a roommate? Why? What are some factors that were important to you when deciding on a roommate? 

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Term Vs. Whole Life Insurance: The Eternal Debate

February 4, 2013 by Jana 10 Comments

This is a guest post from Mindy Lamont, the Founder & CEO at The Insurist and participant in Bloggers Helping Bloggers. As a former sheepherder, she finds life insurance and financial planning just a bit more exciting.

Term vs. Whole Life insurance.

I sigh just typing those words. Several times.

wpid-1332151853_life-insurance-policyPeople get all sorts of riled up on this topic. Cue the likes of Suze Orman and Dave Ramsey. It’s like the Vegan argument. Full of passion, idealism, emotion, and half truths. And no, I’m not calling Vegans liars. My diet comes close, without all the emotion. Same with my views on term vs. whole life.

I believe they’re both good. Depends on the client. Put into the wrong hands, a whole life policy can be like kryptonite for your finances. In the right hands, and much later down the road, a well designed whole life policy can be a diamond in the rough, just waiting to be harvested. This is where the confusion lies. The pundits like to portray this as an apples to apples comparison. It’s not. At all.

Let’s start with defining term coverage. Term is the most basic form of life insurance. At the time of underwriting your risk profile determines your premium. That premium is guaranteed for a certain number of years. 1, 5, 10, 15, 20, etc…usually in five year increments. At the end of the initial term, the premiums typically skyrocket. Why? Because term life insurance isn’t designed to go on forever.

Often times this increase in premium is described as a scam or another example of the insurance industry trying to take your money. It’s really not. It’s just that these products are not intended to go beyond their initial term. That is all. You might think someone who was uninsurable at the end of a term policy might have to continue and pay these enormous premiums. Likely not. Why? Because of something called a conversion privilege…one of the most important concepts when it comes to buying term like insurance.

What’s a conversion privilege you ask? The majority of term policies provide the ability to convert to another, usually permanent, product with no additional evidence of insurance. Huge, right? That means if during the duration of your term policy you decide you want life insurance for life you can get the same amount of coverage in a permanent product guaranteed. The devil’s in the fine print though, because some policies limit the number of years you can take advantage of this, so make sure you know what you’re getting into.

So the summary on term life: simple, affordable coverage that is intended to cover a temporary risk for a defined number of years.

Whole life isn’t so easy to explain. This is often part of the problem. Hard to explain and harder to understand if you’re not eating, drinking, and breathing life insurance every day. This is what leads to the product being SOLD instead of understood.

Whole life is best used as a savings product, not strictly for death benefit protection. And it’s a LONG TERM savings product when used this way. While there are many different uses for whole life products, I’m going to stick to its application as a safe money savings tool.

Treating it as an apples to apples comparison with term life products, the premium numbers immediately point out we’ve got big differences. For the healthiest 35 year old man, a $1 million 20 year term policy will run something in the neighborhood of $40 per month for 20 years. For the same guy, a $1 million dollar whole life policy will cost $820 per month through age 65. Say what?!? No that’s not a typo. $40 a month vs. $820 a month. Who in their right mind would pay $820 for something they can get for $40?

No one. Because it’s not the same policy.

The difference in this example is what happens INSIDE the policy and what you can do with it. Some call it a “living” benefit. If we look at the whole life policy at the end of twenty years (when the term policy expires), the whole life policy has a minimum guaranteed cash value of $231,360, where as the term policy has no cash value built up. If the client pays premium to age 65 and uses the cash value to supplement his retirement income, he has the potential of adding over $27,000 to his annual income from age 65 to 95. So for a total of $196,900 paid over 30 years, the client can potentially draw $834,600 (over the next 30 years) out of the policy on a tax free basis. Yep, you read that correctly. On a tax free basis.

The next argument against whole life typically comes in the form of “buy term and invest the difference.” Often times they’re right, particularly when the client doesn’t have 30 years to let their money accumulate. But rather than lose your attention completely, I’ll stop here and take a break. In a follow up post we’ll tackle that one, with numerical examples so you can see where this does and doesn’t make sense.

One thing to point out is while we are using the same theoretical client for this example, in real life, the two product examples I’ve used would be applied to two completely different clients. One with a need for basic life insurance protection (i.e. the term product) and one with a decent amount of discretionary cash available to contribute to a long term savings plan. The need for term insurance can be easily identified and solved. The suitability of a whole life policy should only be determined after a thorough discovery process. If someone’s trying to shove it down your throat, run fast.

Thanks for listening. I’m happy to take any questions, and I’ll be back with more on this topic in a future post (Jana’s note: and she will be. Soon. Because although I grew up in a house with an insurance broker for a father, I don’t understand this stuff at all. And it’s important).

**Please note: there are all sorts of disclosures about theoretical explanations of insurance products. Things like “this example is only for a 35 year old healthy male in California who’s never been skydiving, didn’t party like a rockstar, and doesn’t play with tigers.” You get the picture. The figures here are for explanation purposes only and represent no guarantees related to any specific person reading this. Play nice kids.

 

 

Filed Under: Guest posts, Money

10 money must haves for moms

January 30, 2013 by Jana 20 Comments

…and dads and grandparents and pretty much everyone else.

This idea came to me after seeing a picture on Facebook posted by Jen from People I Want To Punch In the Throat. While I love the original list (which you can find here) for its snark and sarcasm, I thought it might be a good idea to strip that away for a moment and think practically about the financial things we need. After all, without our finances in tact, how are we going to pay for the babysitter, wine, trips to Target, and girls’ night out?

We’re not.

So, here we go. My 10 money must haves:

  1. A budget–you need to know where your money is going and how much you have coming in. Without this, you’re kind of screwed. 
  2. An emergency fund-because shit happens and you need to be prepared. If the 3-6 months is too intimidating, start small. But just start.
  3. A menu plan–the single best way to save money at the grocery store.
  4. A retirement savings plan–unless you want to work forever, you need to save for the day you stop working.
  5. A will–because you will die. Best to be prepared and get everything straight ahead of time.
  6. A marketable skill–we all have one. And we all can do something that, in the event of an economic pinch, can bring in some extra income.
  7. A frugal hobby–shopping is fun, but why not pick up a book from the library? It’s just as time consuming but saves a ton of money in the long run. Maybe filter the savings to your EF or retirement savings.
  8. A money savvy friend–we all need someone we can go to with our money questions and concerns. Find one of those people and put her in your friend arsenal with the fun friend and the creative friend.
  9. A motivational motto–I like having some saying that get me through tough days. I even have an entire Pinterest board devoted to them. Print one and put it somewhere conspicuous for the days you doubt yourself.
  10. A good night’s sleep–because nothing enables bad decisions, especially financial ones, more than being tired.

Put these 10 into place and you’re ahead of everyone who says they can’t control their finances. Because when you look at it like this, it’s really not that hard.

And in case you want it in pretty graphic form:

money must haves v2

 

Filed Under: Family matters, Money

DIY tips from near death experiences

January 28, 2013 by Jana 14 Comments

This is a guest post from my friends and new bloggers Jack and Diane at Marriage in Debt who’ve decided it is time to get out of debt.  And what better way to do it other than in the public?!  Zany adventures are promised as they first work to get rid of over $78,000 of “traditional” debt (not including student loans or houses – those numbers are coming later).  No gimmicks, no schemes, no inheritance, no lottery winnings here.  Just plain hard work as a computer programmer and professional fundraiser figure this all out.  

She Said:

someecards.com - Well babe, you've definitely given a new meaning to DIY. It no longer means do it yourself but stands for how dangerously incompetent you are.
This is not the picture they provided. My computer hates me and wouldn’t upload those. So this is the substitute.

It was a crisp day on the street lined with homes filled with dozens of occupants attending the local university.  Inside this one specific tall white beat-down house with the lopsided porch lived five guys.  Nope, they didn’t start the hamburger chain (Jana’s note: though wouldn’t it be awesome if they did? Free fries for life!).  They were all brilliant in school and studying engineering, accounting, geology, education, and mathematics (combined GPA of about 18.6).  On this particular day, while also trying various methods to cure the hangover, they were gathered around the doorway to the laundry room.  Quite simply, chicks don’t dig wet clothes and they were all too broke to call a professional.  The math major was up to his elbows in parts and wires until the guys who studied finances, rocks, and actual mechanical engineering were satisfied the dryer was finally fixed.  Confidentially the math major began to plug the new cord into the wall and then attempted to bolt it to the dryer.  All stared in disbelief as a blazing bright blue arc of 220 volts shot from one of his hands to the other.  There were no permanent damage (we think).  It should also be noted that the washer had recently leaked and the math major was standing in this puddle of water.  The engineer simply quipped, “cool!”

Ladies and gentleman, my confession at the moment is that I actually married the math major. (Jana’s note: I married someone who tried to do pyrotechnics with grain alcohol. I think Diane and I should get together and compare notes on what the hell we were thinking.)

The dryer incident was not the last of the near-death handyman incidents.  I may have forgiven the great ceiling-fan-wire-melting-during-the-heat-wave-with-a-newborn-baby incident but certainly have not forgotten (obviously)!  There has also been successful stories involving car alternators, oven doors, lawnmowers, and, of course, anything computer related.

My preference is to pick up the phone and call in an expert.  But Jack likes to tinker with it first.  Oddly enough, when the decision came to either hire a professional or attempt to fix on our own, the final verdict is almost always centered on the green paper bills.

He Said:

Yep, it’s no secret that I refuse to call experts and, armed with whatever information I can pull off of the internet, I can fix ANYTHING!  Do I have the tools, skills, knowledge, or any business tackling 90% of these projects?  NO!

When looking at a project, you have to make the decision between DIY or hire the professionals.  That has nothing to do with pride nor ego nor being-a-man bravado.  This is about getting the job right that costs as little as possible.

  1. Research!   The internet is a wonderful thing and can be used for more than just porn and fantasy football leagues.  Surprised, right?  Yeah, me too.  Most vehicles have specific community boards where you can ask any question or search for any solution.  Most appliances have self-help boards that include step-by-step instructions with pictures.  Just put “How to..” into Google or Bing or Ask, and watch the knowledge come pouring onto your screen
  2. Take a quick stop at YouTube.  Our Jeep lost all power to the driver’s side door.  I kid you not, there was a video of a guy demonstrating how to find the broken wire and solder it back together on the same exact model with the same interior and exterior colors.  It was uncanny that I peeked out the window.  I have used YouTube to help install heating elements in dryers, patch sheetrock, and setup a garage door opener.  It is amazing what is out there, and what people have recorded themselves fixing over the years.  Be aware that they always make it seem easier on the screen than it is in real life.
  3. Consider your tools.  If there is a mistake I always make, it’s that I do not have the right tools.  I think I can get by with the tools I have rather than ponying up the dough for the right ones.  And, each time, I end up doing more damage or spending three times as long finishing the project.  Time is worth money too.  Consider the investment in the right tools for this job that you will need to purchase.
  4. Duct tape and WD-40 work well in a pinch.  When the back spoiler of our Trailblazer fell off on a family vacation, the always versatile duct tape held everything together until we got back home.  And, when it turned out to be a $700 repair job, it held for a couple of months while we saved up the money.  Our neighbors were super impressed with that car sitting in our driveway, but we paid $700 for the repair, not $700 plus 18% interest on a credit card.
  5.  Utilize social media.  We all have friends that have done these types of things before and can offer you some guidance.  When our air conditioner unit fan stopped turning, we posted the problem on Facebook.  Ten suggestions later telling us to “kick it” and ..that actually did work.   So ignore all male impulses to NOT ASK and realize the end-goal is to get the project done right
  6. If you have friends or family that does this type of work professionally, utilize them.  The best thing you can do is bribe them with some beer, have them show you how to do it, use their tools, and hopefully you can get the project down for the cost of parts only.  And, the project is done right the first time.
  7. If after all of these options above you decide to call an expert, rely upon the above tools to find an expert to trust.  A blind call from the yellow pages rarely worked out for us as that is how we found anti-politics guy, still-in-refrigeration-school guy, make-yourself-at-home guy, and sleeping-under-outdoor-running-spigot guy, and the I-swear-your-dog-did-it guy.

My attempts at DIY projects over the years has lead to some very interesting and entertaining stories among friends, especially the near-death ones involved large volts of electricity.  But, I have learned a ton, become more confident along the way, and, more importantly, learned my limitations on what I can and cannot tackle.

Some of my buddies can tear down a car engine blindfolded or finish an entire basement with a single hammer.  Other guys hire someone to paint a room or change a light bulb. If you are one that just jumps in feet first, do the research first to see if you are going to be over your head.  Basically, put the porn down and do a little research.  You may save yourself some big bucks with a little DIY knowledge.

Jana’s final thoughts: DIY is not for the faint of heart. It’s tough, it’s complicated and, if you don’t know what you’re doing, it can wind up costing you a ton of money in the end. Before giving DIY a try, follow Jack’s handy tips (see what I did there? Botched SNL reference. Yeah, I know. I’m hilarious) and determine if you really can pull off a DIY project or if you need to call a professional. 

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