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Handling post-conference information overload

September 10, 2012 by Jana 6 Comments

If you follow me on Twitter, you know I spent most of last week at FinCon (the Financial Blogger Conference for all of my non-blogger readers. Also, if you don't follow me on Twitter, I highly recommend it. We have a good time over there). You may also know that fact because I mentioned it about 3 or 4 times on DMS. And I'm fairly certain you all have the same question–how was it? (Unless you were there and know it was great and in that case, you probably want to know how my liver is feeling. I asked her and she said fine as long as I stay away from red wine for a few days).

In short, FinCon was amazing. But most of you probably don't really care. And that's absolutely fine. Because if this weren't my site and I wasn't a blogger, I wouldn't care either. However, at one point or another, we all experience something like I did at FinCon.

Information overload.

When you attend a conference, workshop, class or any other educational medium, you typically walk away with more information than you can handle. At least I do (if you don't, I am incredibly jealous). I also walk away wanting to implement everything I learned. And I want to do it NOW!!! But that is completely unreasonable and ridiculous and is probably due to the lack of sleep (and aforementioned red wine).

To deal with my overambitiousness, I developed a strategy. I wish it had a cool name but it doesn't so I'll just tell you what I do to manage the massive influx of information that assembles in my brain after a really intense conference:

Sleep

At conferences where wine and amazing company and educational breakout sessions are aplenty, sleep is in short supply. That lack of sleep can impact the post-conference goals you set. It is essential that you're well rested when you do this otherwise you might decide that perhaps you want to become a biker and then sign up for motorcycle lessons because you think bikers are awesome especially when they look like ZZ Top and then you buy a motorcycle from Craigslist only now you have no where to put it and then you remember that you are terrified of motorcycles and men with long beards. So now you're out money on a motorcycle and maybe a leather jacket and the next 4 Saturdays are booked because you need to attend motorcycle riding classes.

This is not cool. However, if you were well rested, you probably would have just decided to write an ebook or look for a freelance gig. Something simple and more aligned with your actual life goals (unless one of your goals is to become a biker. If that's the case, have at it. No judging here).

Cull business cards

At conferences, business cards are given out more freely than beads on Mardi Gras. And you don't even have to show your boobs to get them. All you have to do is engage in a 5 minute conversation about even the most mundane topics like cookies and you will obtain a card. You wind up returning with a massive collection of cards from people you can't remember. It's overwhelming.

To manage it, sit down with the pile of cards and slowly go through them. Much like they suggest on Hoarders, create 3 piles: keep, toss, I'm not sure. Throw away any cards that you took simply to be polite, are from companies you don't care to have a relationship with, or bloggers with whom you didn't or don't want to forge a connection (don't get mad. It happens. I'm pretty sure my card is in many a landfill). Keep the ones that you know you need. For the “I don't knows”, take some time to browse the website. See if it could be a good fit. File the cards away and set a reminder to go through them again in 2 months. Gauge your interaction with those people and make a determination then.

Make implementation lists

Conferences often leave us with a post-conference high. Included in that is the feeling of empowerment, an incredible belief in our skills and abilities, a desire to enthusiastically pursue our goals, and a burning desire to be next year's success story. On the one hand, this is great. It's good to feel ambitious and confident and ready to take on the world with lack of abandon.

On the other hand, it's a disaster. We try so hard to implement all the ideas, tips and tricks we learned that we end up doing a really crappy job on all of it. Then we get pissed and dejected and all that confidence? Gone. The post-conference high deflates like a bad breast implant. To prevent that from happening, go through your notes and make lists. Figure out what can be implemented immediately, like adding a plugin or signing up for a service or sending a follow up email. Then determine when the other changes will roll out and what's a reasonable schedule for that. Maybe in 3 months you'll have a site redesign, in 6 months you'll have a newsletter and in a year, you'll publish that ebook. Taking your time doesn't mean you gained little at the conference; it means you did learn and you want to do the best you can.

Reread notes at a later date

Whether you take handwritten or electronic notes (I take notes by hand because I am old and I write faster than I type on an iPad), you will leave with a cache of information, including handouts, website lists and other “extras”. When combined with the sessions themselves, there is often so much that my brain cannot handle it all. So, when you return, put it all away. Don't look at it. Let your brain relax and decompress. I do this by watching some of the worst TV I can find. I recommend this but you can do whatever works for you.

By letting the brain take a vacation, much of the conference noise gets cleared. That way, when you reread your notes a few days later, you are more focused and can process them rationally, clearly, and intelligently. They make more sense. Retaining the information is easier, which then makes thenimplementation strategies more effective and logical.

FinCon is probably the best conference I have ever been to, and not just because of free wine, food, friends and the occassional bit of eye candy (yes, boys, we do look at you and talk about you that way). FinCon has helped me improve as a blogger, writer, site owner and member of the personal finance community. My strategy for dealing with what I learn at FinCon has helped me maintain my blogging sanity so the other parts of my sanity (which are dwindling) stick around.

Readers, how do you handle processing post-conference information?

 

Filed Under: bloggers, work, writing

Please, just stop whining

August 15, 2012 by Jana 15 Comments

There is a blog I read semi-regularly that annoys, irritates and frustrates the hell out of me. Why do I read it? Good question. I read it for several reasons: 1) it’s not completely personal finance and I like to read sites that are out of my niche; 2) the woman is not a horrible writer and, at times, is kind of entertaining; and 3) the drama.

Oh, yes. This woman’s life is filled with more drama than an episode of 90210, The Real World and Teen Mom all rolled into one. Quite frankly, on some level, I do feel bad for her. She’s had series of horrible events happen to her, including a cheating husband, no child support, and a difficult time with the state of Connecticut’s family court system.  From her description of her life the last few years, it hasn’t been a picnic. However…

If I had a chance to talk to this woman, I don’t know that I’d be the most supportive. I’m not saying that the events leading to her current situation were her fault (I’m the last person who would ever blame the one who was cheated on) but the way she’s approached some of the obstacles is a bit…well, terrible. She has a horrible, entitlement attitude that does nothing to improve her station. And it infuriates me. And because I do things like this, I’ve had dozens of imaginary conversations with her in my head and they went something like this:

Dear mommy blogger,

While I appreciate that you’re in a tough spot, and have been for many years, I am finding it increasingly difficult to be sympathetic towards you anymore. In the beginning, I did. You were left in a lurch and completely screwed over by a man who vowed to take care of you until the end. And he is a giant piece of shit for what he did to you and your children. However, I’ve noticed that, lately, you have made it difficult to feel any feelings towards you except anger and hostility. I imagine some of your other readers feel the same way.

I do feel that you need to take some steps to earn back my sympathy (providing you even want it. You may not. If that’s the case, you can stop reading now. I won’t be offended). Here they are:

  • Stop complaining and whining. I get that everyone needs to vent. I do it. But there’s a fine line between whining and complaining and venting. Venting means expressing your frustration while taking some action to improve your situation. Whining and complaining means you just incessantly bitch about whatever happens to be bothering you without doing anything to make it go away. You see the key difference? Action. People don’t mind listening to a person vent as long as there’s steps being taken to solve the problem. But whining and complaining gets grueling to read and even more tiresome to listen to.  You will lose your support system if you continue to bombard your readers with complaints, and, when you do share something positive (like your new job—congrats!), it’s hidden in the middle of more negative thoughts and complaints. Please just be positive once and awhile.  Your readers will appreciate it.
  • Stop playing the victim.  Yes, you have been screwed over. By a lot of people. There’s no denying that.  However, what you perceive as a personal slight and complete injustice thrust upon you by your state (and ex-husband) is not that. What you perceive as complete mistreatment by the system designed to help you (for the record, I feel you have been given the short end of the stick but, in some instances, you have not. You have an entitlement attitude that you deserves to be exempt from the same rules and requirements as everyone else) is not a conspiracy. Many of those people, particularly the caseworkers you have so much contempt for, are following the very strict rules attached to their jobs. If they don’t do that, they get in trouble by their supervisors and the courts. They don’t want that on their heads. It’s not personal and no one is attacking you because of your religion or anything else. You are not the only woman to have her husband walk out on her, yet you are one of the women who now acts like the world now owes her because of it. Stop it.
  • Stop making excuses for why you can’t do something. And please start assuming some responsibility. Never in my life, not even through spending 10 years working in social services, have I seen someone make so many excuses for not being able to do virtually anything. And it’s always someone else’s fault. Your husband walked out on you. Your car doesn’t work. You can’t give up your organic diet. You must homeschool. The state and the judges and the case workers are all in a conspiracy against you. You assume no responsibility for your situation (let me be clear: your ex-husband is an giant asshole. But he is not the only man to ever do so, yet you refuse to stop acting like he ruined your life. See bullet point above).  You spent money that you don’t have on your kids’ birthdays. Yet, up until a few weeks ago, you didn’t work. You constantly complained about no heat, not having money for gas or food or necessary car repairs.
  • Stop expecting everyone else to solve your problems. You are abusing your readers. You are constantly asking us to provide financial support for your family because…well, I’m not sure why. You provide laundry lists for why your jobs (current and past) don’t provide enough, yet you spent years relying on your children’s part-time income and your church to provide for you. And now you ask it of your readers.  You ask us to buy your daughters’ handmade dolls. To buy your book. To sponsor your children for school. We can help make things easier but these are not sustainable solutions to your problems. You must figure that out on your own. We can’t do it for you.

So that’s it. I wish you the very best of luck in everything. I hope, now that you’re working and some of your kids are either adults or in school, your situation improves. I hope that you can move on from this incredibly shitty chapter of your life, having learned some good lessons along the way.

I’ll still be on the sidelines rooting for you, despite our opposing views on virtually everything, but if some things don’t change, I don’t know that I’ll be able to follow your story much longer. In either case, I wish you the very best.

–Jana

Readers, have you ever known anyone like this? What would you say to that person, given the chance?

Filed Under: bloggers, Sidebar Shots

Sharing Thursday #4

July 12, 2012 by Jana 3 Comments

someecards.com - You never mangage to fail at living up to our low expectations of you! I should call this the “I’m not as good at this as I’d like to be edition”. Because really, I’m not very good at this. I’m just glad you all are used to it by now.

It’s not that I don’t try. I want to read more posts. I want to tweet and comment. I want to be more engaged. But in reality, my child refuses to let me. I swear she knows exactly when I’m about to sit down and do those things and that’s when she decides it’s quality mommy/daughter time or she wants to be fed or read to or something else that she clearly thinks is more important than reading blogs. When I’m doing nothing except playing another round of Song Pop or The Oregon Trail? She wants nothing to do with me.

It’s kind of frustrating.

But I’ve found ways to sneak in reading. Like during our mandatory quiet reading time. Or when I just can’t watch her swim underwater for the 80th time that day. Or when I’m waiting for a class to start at the gym. Or at 10:00 at night when she’s finally asleep (which makes the husband a little upset but, well, at this point, no one’s going to be happy). Pretty much anytime she’s not looking. It’s starting to work.

And I’m glad I’ve found ways to sneak in some reading. Because if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have read these great posts this week:

  • How Does the Average Family Budget Compare to Yours? on My Family Finances
  • Are You Raising Your Kids to be Financially Independent? on Smart on Money
  • Prepare for the Next Financial Setback: Cut Back Now on Moolanomy
  • 10 Ways to Make Money Without a Job on Living Richly on a Budget
  • How To Budget When Your Income Changes Each Month on Ready for Zero
I’d also like to thank the host of the the 369th Carnival of Personal Finance, Serendipity, for not only including my post, Find Your One Inch, but for making it one of the editor’s picks (and for those of you surprised that I even remembered to submit to a carnival, well, include me in that category, too).

Filed Under: bloggers

Sharing Thursday #3: The Canadian Edition

June 28, 2012 by Jana 8 Comments

I recently spent some time at my parents’ house (or as I like to call it, the land that wifi forgot). It was a really nice visit, filled with seeing family, visiting friends (new and old), working out at my parents’ gym (more on that in another post) and most importantly, napping.

But I also got to spend a good amount of time with my grandfather, who turned 97 this month. He’s a really interesting man, replete with facts, information and stories galore. Talking to him, you actually forget he’s almost 100; he’s that sharp. During our talks, he detailed for me stories of his days in business, shared some of his writing, and, most fascinating, told me numerous stories of his days growing up in Montreal.

That’s right, folks. My grandparents are from Montreal. Which partly explains why I love Canada. Well, not so much the cold weather, hockey and the fact that I’m functionally illiterate in French, but the country (well, what I’ve seen of it) is beautiful, the Expos always made the Mets look good, Rush is from there, a good portion of my family still resides in various parts and Coffee Crisps…well, if you’ve had one, then you know. Fine, that’s completely superficial but I really don’t think you care about the sordid details of my love affair with Canada. So, superficial information it is!

Anyway…I had intended for this to be a wonderfully sweet homage to Canada. Instead it’s turning into some insane rambling. Which means it’s time for me to stop talking and time to start sharing some posts by some of my favorite Canadian bloggers. You know, since it’s supposed to be Ode to Canada Day here at Daily Money Shot. So let’s get to it:

  • A Few Things More Important Than Money on Finance Fox
  • Obsessing Over Debt Isn’t Healthy on My Alternative Life
  • Why You Don’t Want to Keep Up with the Joneses on Sustainable Personal Finance
  • Managing the Third Shift: Are You Making Time for Yourself? on Prairie Eco Thrifter
  • So You Want To Be An Entrepreneur? on Thirty Six Months
  • How to Step Up to Change on When Life Gives You Lemons
  • Eight Lessons for College Grads on Money After Graduation
  • Reflections on Unemployment: What I Hate Most on Vanessa’s Money
  • The Absolute Worst Way to Save Money on Studenomics
If you’re a Canadian blogger and I’ve left you out, I’m sorry. To make amends, if you want, leave a link to your favorite post in the comments section.

 

Filed Under: bloggers

Survive Wedding Season Debt Free

June 25, 2012 by Jana 6 Comments

This is a guest post from my friend Suzanne Cramer, social media specialist with Care One Credit and blogger at A Straight Talk On Debt. 

I have surpassed the threshold of having multiple friends I grew up with, or went to school with making us all about the same age getting married in what seemed like at the time—all at once. There was a span of about 3 years where I attended or was in fifteen weddings—the expenses killed my finances. I never calculated the actual amount I spent, the shock may have given me a heart attack, but I would venture to guess I spent an average of $750 for the 5 weddings I was in and roughly $200 for those I attended, making the total over $5,000. What I could have done with $5k…

With summer right around the corner, wedding season is upon us. According to The Knot, June, August, September and October are the most popular months for weddings.

So if you have a slew of weddings to attend this summer, proper planning can help you “be there” for your friends and family without going into debt. I’ll be sitting this season out as I don’t have a single wedding to attend.

In the Wedding

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