8 simple ways to make a blogger happy

Bloggers are a weird bunch. Most of us are extremely introverted, we’re kind of awkward, being around large groups of people freaks us out, and being the center of attention is decidedly not our thing. We’re not quick to share intimate details of our lives with those closest to us, or even those we want to be close to us, yet we have no problem talking about pretty much anything to a whole bunch of internet strangers who then eventually become some of our closest friends then it’s bizarre when you meet in person because all the typical getting to know you stuff is out of the way and then you’re really like old friends instead of new ones and you can have all kinds of fun that maybe you wouldn’t have with normal new friends because these new/old friends already know you’re insane and you don’t have to pretend.

At least that’s how it is for me.


We might be weird but bloggers are also fairly easy to please. It really is the small things that make a difference to us and, since I know you’re curious to know what those thing are, I’ve assembled these 8 steps to keep your favorite bloggers happy and in turn, they’ll keep writing stuff you love to read. It’s quite the symbiotic relationship (look at me, using big science words). 

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  1. Leave a comment. That little bit of acknowledgement that someone read your post and had something to say in response is a fabulous. Those little conversations between a blogger and a reader establish trust and let us know that you like us. We enjoy that.
  2. Connect on social media. Bloggers like getting to know their readers, and there’s really no better way to do that than to connect with us on social media. Whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest or whatever, stop by and say hi.
  3. Send an email. Not comfortable sharing or connecting on social media? Send your favorite blogger an email saying how much you enjoyed a particular post or that you can relate to a story or even ask a question. Try to refrain from sending hate mail because that’s just not nice and really unnecessary.
  4. Share a post on social media. Clearly, social media is a big deal to bloggers. But it really means something to us when you take the time to share a post on  Facebook or retweet on Twitter, pin a recipe on Pinterest, or something else I’m not thinking of at the moment. It shows us that you really, really like us and it makes us feel popular (especially when we see the referral traffic coming in).breakfast club gif
  5. Buy their stuff. Bloggers work hard not only to put out good, fun content for their readers but a number of them write books, sell t-shirts, jewelry, and other products, have coaching or graphic design services, or have other small businesses and they work even harder to make that stuff great. When you’re considering using a service or buying a gift, think of a blogger and help them out.
  6. Help them sell their stuff. If you’ve used a blogger for a service or you’ve bought one of their products, tell others about it. Word of mouth is how things get done and hearing testimonies is encouraging. Plus, you’ll put a smile on the blogger’s face that what they’re doing/creating is praiseworthy. That makes us feel all warm and squishy.
  7. Participate in their challenges/projects/movements. Almost nothing makes a blogger sadder than creating a challenge and having no one participate. We love engaging with other bloggers and non-bloggers, and a fun way for us to do that is to have week or month-long challenges. Not only does it give us a goal or focus but we have now have a way to connect on a different level. 
  8. Keep reading. This is basically the single best thing you can do to keep a blogger happy. Even if you do nothing else on this list, visit the blogs you read daily (or at least on the days you know the blogger posts). While most of us would keep writing even if no one read, having an audience means that we’re not just writing for ourselves. When you leave, it hurts.  bridesmaids gif

Bonus tip for non-bloggers: if you have a friend or relative who does have a blog, ask them about it. We love talking about our sites and we love when someone takes an interest in it (real interest. We can tell when you’re faking it). 

Making a blogger happy is easy, mostly painless, and almost entirely free. So we’ve got that going for us.

Which is nice. 

What would you guys add to the list?

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Friday favorites, volume 20

I’m still in recovery/catch up mode from New Orleans, which is making this week ridiculously hard. It doesn’t help that I’ve had unplanned doctor’s appointments 3 times since I’ve been home (long story, and one that I’d rather not get into because it kind of sucks why I have to go. Nothing too serious but it’s still crappy. Sorry I’m being cryptic. I’ll talk about it when I have my test results. Promise). At least I’ve unpacked and done laundry, plus a few blog/mentoring related things so I’m only about 3 days behind instead of 5. Which is nice.

Before we move on to my weekly favorites, I promised Steph that I’d divulge the secret steps to killing a vampire. Here goes:

  1. Identify said vampire. You can do this if a cat jumps over the coffin 3 times or if a stray dog shows up at the front door. (Clearly this is based in science and practicality and not anything weird).
  2. Drive a stake through “dead” person’s heart.
  3. Cut his head off just in case a pointy object through his heart doesn’t make him sufficiently dead.
  4. Place the head at his feet.
  5. Turn coffin upside down. 
  6. Bury it.


I know this seems like a ton of thorough, violent, and unnecessary work but Frank the tour guide swears this is the only way to make sure a vampire is dead and he’s totally trustworthy so I think we should follow his directions. 

Now that you’re all in the know, we’re all safe, especially since we probably need to have vampire slaying field officers all over the country in the event of a vampire crisis. 

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m relieved that we have this shit under control now. 

Favorite songs

This week, I’ve had two songs stuck in my head: “This Is Gonna Hurt” by Sixx AM (Nikki Sixx’s band, and, if you’re in the market for a memoir, read his book The Heroin Diaries. AMAZING) and “So What’cha Want” by The Beastie Boys. And now you can have them stuck in your head. Side note: the terrible grammar in both song titles makes me twitchy and it pained me to not write the words properly. 
This Is Gonna Hurt by Sixx: A.M. on Grooveshark
So What’cha Want by Beastie Boys on Grooveshark

Favorite frugal find

I guess you can combine this with book thing because I’ve been wanting to read Greil Marcus’s The History of Rock ‘n Roll in Ten Songs and it’s on sale on Amazon for less than $10. My library doesn’t have it in the catalog so I’ll be buying it this weekend. Way better than paying $28.


Favorite TV thing

Chris Pratt is hosting SNL this weekend. That is all. 

Favorite internet reads

I haven’t spent too much time reading the internet this week but I did see that the guy who wrote Go the Fuck to Sleep has another book coming out, You Have to Fucking EatI just hope Samuel L. Jackson narrates this one, too. There was also a pretty interesting post on Mental Floss, Famous Novelists on Symbolism in Their Work and Whether It Was Intentional. And although LOST basically ruined TV for me, my longtime favorite magazine, Rolling Stone, published a great article discussing the impact of the show on the 10th anniversary of its premiere. If you were psychotically obsessed with the show like I was, it’s definitely worth the read.

Favorite quote

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Favorite funnies

This isn’t so much funny as it is true. If you can’t make me laugh, we don’t need to be friends.

I wish I had thought of this.

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Lobster mafia. It’s real.










Seven has a point.









Enjoy your weekend! Hopefully you’ll be able to do something fun or productive or just binge watch some great TV. If you follow football, I hope your team wins, especially if they’re playing the Eagles. As for me, I’m just biding my time until baseball postseason. 


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About that time I went to New Orleans

As you guys know, I was in New Orleans last week for a blogging conference where my blogger mentoring program was hosting a session. For those who are interested, the session went really well despite my atrocious public speaking skills and thankfully for those who attended, I only spoke for a grand total of 5 minutes, 2 of which included announcing raffle winners and then later on, dismissing the session. 

I’m pretty sure public speaking is a skill I should work on. And thanks to the conference, I have someone who offered to help me. Conference perk #1.

Conference perk #2 is free stuff, of which I managed to accumulate with efficiency. I didn’t pick up any t-shirts (most of them don’t fit over my humongous hooters anyway and the ones that do have writing on the chest. I actively avoid shirts with writing that go just across the chest) or other odds and ends that would just gather dust. I did pick up some cool shit including what’s pictured below: a blogging book, a blog planner, 2 Starbucks gift cards, a Google Chromecast, Kansas City seasoning that is apparently really good but makes no sense as a gift at a conference in New Orleans but whatever, some sort of portable lithium phone battery, and a little holder thing for your phone when it’s charging and you have nowhere to place it. photo (4)

Can’t go wrong with free shit, amirite?

While I learned a whole lot about blogging, particularly Pinterest, and I’m crazy excited to start implementing some of the strategies I learned, and work on two new collaborative projects, it’s much more interesting to find out what I did outside of the conference.

So let’s get to that. Besides sleep deprivation and drinking gallons of Guinness, perk #3 is getting to sightsee. Here’s a rundown of the highlights:

  • Bourbon Street is probably the single most disgusting place I have ever been. Not the behavior of the people, because I definitely saw worse in Cancun on Spring Break in college (my behavior on that trip is for another time). No. It is the most vile, smelly, filthy street in the history of time. It’s what I imagine the inside of a sewer is like. Every morning, they have to HOSE THE STREET DOWN because it’s that disgusting. I don’t even want to know the amount, or types, of fluids that seep into that street each night. That said, it’s definitely an experience and I’m glad I saw it first hand.
  • There’s a church near Jackson Square (with a statue of Andrew Jackson that led to an interesting discussion about Abraham Lincoln and his horse riding abilities) that is one of the oldest churches in the US, and the site of a 1987 papal visit. Outside the church is a whole bunch of men and ladies doing tarot card readings. It’s an interesting sight.
  • Thanks to a ghost tour that focused heavily on vampires, I now know the proper way to kill a vampire should this become an issue. It’s a pretty specific skill set and if the tour guide is right, we should be way more worried about a vampire apocalypse than a zombie one. Fortunately, I’m prepared now, and that’s comforting. 
  • I participated in some traditional New Orleans activities like riding a cable car, listening to jazz music, eating beignets and jambalaya, watching part of a Saints game, and walking around part of the Garden district which involved a lot of getting lost and maybe also a convenient store that sold beer, tablets, had a working humidor, and a fried chicken bar. Because of course it did. 
  • I got to see Ann Rice’s house. And Nicholas Cage’s old house which was a stop on the ghost tour and really, some of the most disturbing shit I have ever heard in my life occurred in that house in the 1800s. I did not get to see John Goodman’s house which made me sad because I really, really need to know where Dan Conner lives.
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Beignets, Ann Rice’s house, New Orleans jazz band, cable car

But the best part of the conference was the people. Attending a conference with a focus on financial bloggers is weird since I’m not a personal finance blogger, although many of the attendees are close friends from my days when I did write about money and it’s always nice to spend time with them. It’s an intense 4-5 days and when I leave, I feel the same sense of sadness that I felt when I left sleepaway camp or when a year of college ended. The friendships are not like any others I have, and if my non-finance blogger friends went to this conference, too, I don’t know that I’d even be able to leave. 

However, in addition to seeing old friends (and missing the ones that couldn’t make it), I inevitably meet new people who up the awesomeness quotient tenfold. This year was no different. Not only did I get to meet one of my blogging heroes, Jeff Goins, but I met some others who defy adjectives. No joke, when you can talk to someone who can make you cry laughing with a story of shipping an alligator head from New Orleans to Utah and then seamlessly transition to talking about physics and Hemingway, you know you’ve struck gold (and, just in case he’s reading: Hi, Nate!). 

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And that’s how it was for most of the conference. Meeting and talking and socializing and laughing and having a great time with some fascinating people, not knowing if you’ll see them next year or if you’ll keep in touch or if you just need to soak up every minute and file it away your memory box. It’s a bittersweet feeling, but an amazing one nonetheless.

One blogger told me that I’m basically the only one who goes to the conference and never talks to anyone about blogging; I just talk to them about them. Quite frankly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

If I had to sum up FinCon14, it’d be this: Come for the information. Stay for the people.

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